Hopefully the title of this blog post captured your attention. Today I want to talk about what it seems like no one else on bookstagram likes to talk about. Now I’m not saying that people are purposefully avoiding this topic, but I am saying that I think people don’t like to talk about it because it’s an unpopular opinion that may receive backlash or may be misunderstood. Well bear with me, because I’m about to enter this uncomfortable area and share with you, my readers, 5 things that no one else is talking about.
- Reading is hard. Yep, I said it. This is what I’ve seen no one else admit. Reading. Is. Hard. Think about how easy is it to watch tv or a movie, not much brain power is required for this activity other than following along with the plot. It’s a simple fact that reading requires more brain power. It’s an activity that requires you to completely shut out everything else and comprehend the words and sentences your reading. Now this fact is not a bad thing. However, there are some days that my brain just doesn’t have the energy to read and is completely content with being a couch potato and binge watching Criminal Minds. I sometimes feel like bookstagram has this unspoken pressure to glorify books and reading, to not talk about the opposite side of the coin. Well my friends, this is the dirty, ugly truth that I’m serving up today: reading is hard.
- Reading is not our whole world. Bookstagram also has a way of making it appear like we sit around and read books all day. Don’t let social media fool you, most of us have non-book related jobs or other responsibilities and we most definitely are NOT just sitting around and reading all day. This is why I like to include lifestyle posts on my page, I like to remind myself that it’s okay not to post about books 24/7. I’m not saying that’s it’s bad if you do either. I just think it’s good to remind people that reading is an important part of our world, but it’s not our whole world.
- Reading is a choice. Some of you may choose to watch the Bachelorette, or go out to drinks with friends, or catch up on social media. I choose to spend that extra time reading. This is not always easy, but it’s definitely rewarding. We all make choices every single day, bookstagrammers are choosing to either read in their extra time or make extra time to read. So the next time you think, “I don’t have enough time to read,” think again.
- Feeling guilty for not interacting/posting. Here it is again, the unspoken nature of bookstagram. Why is it that if we are absent on the gram for a week or a month, that we feel guilty and feel the need to apologize to our followers? Some of you may not experience this, but I know I’ve had this feeling first hand and a lot of people I follow have exhibited this behavior. Fellow book lovers, we should NOT ever feel this way! Instead of saying, “I’m so sorry I’ve been sick for a week and am just now feeling better,” instead we should just be saying, “I’m back!.” If you took a week off because you were sick, good for you. If you took a month off because you were on vacation, good for you. If you took a YEAR off because you just weren’t feeling it, GOOD FOR YOU. I truly don’t believe that any of our followers are going to be mad or upset that we weren’t posting due to personal reasons. On the chance that they are, they have every right to unfollow us. I just feel the need to remind people that they are the owners of their accounts, that they are not subject to needs and wants of followers. People follow people because they respect their individuality and their choices. If we choose to leave the world of bookstagram for awhile, we do not need to apologize .
- That being in a reading funk or slump is a bad thing. You guys, we all have those times where we don’t want to read. Those times where you just finished an amazing, magnificent, one-of-a-kind book that you just don’t think anything else can compare. I’ve seen so many people post about this like it is a bad thing. NEWSFLASH – being in a slump is not a bad thing. I personally think that taking time off from reading can be good for the soul. Not only does it give you time to process that amazingly, great book you just finished, but it gives you time to get rejuvenated and revamped for the next book you pick up. I think a lot of people think that as soon as we finish one book, we have to go immediately pick a new one and start reading it. WRONG. It’s okay to not be reading anything at the moment. It’s okay to not be reading anything for a week or a month. Time away from books can be just as healthy as time spent reading them.
Okay, now I realize this may come off as a very negative post. My intent was to actually do the opposite. In my personal experience, along with the 1,800 people I follow, I find that bookstagram has a lot of unwritten and unspoken rules that can affect us. I think it’s healthy to recognize these nuances, and take a step back. I think this really can be said for all social media too. My point is to take everything with a grain of salt. What you see is not always what’s in the big picture.
Take care my readers and have a fabulous day.
B & B